Happiness. Success. What does that really mean? It varies from person to person, culture to culture. You turn on the TV and it’s exemplified by money and materials things, or being known for just simply behaving badly. For example, the ever popular reality shows that are all about excess, and examples of rewarded dysfunctional behavior when handling and addressing problems. We eat it up!
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve noticed that most happy people are doing what they love to do, giving them a sense of purpose and direction. They keep life as simple as possible and don’t sweat the small stuff, which is really hard because as a species we seem conditioned to let the small stuff get the best of us.
When you lose a loved one or have a loved one in jeopardy, all the small things we seem to be so distracted by pale in comparison to the real dynamics of life, love, family, lovers/partners, friends and the things that you know are right and truly important. Recognition of these things help us to put everything into a better perspective, and in so doing, live better lives.
Now I don’t think that material things are necessarily a bad thing. I think it’s great to be able to acquire at least some of the things that you’ve dreamed of over the years, if not most (or all), through your hard work, commitment, and perseverance. They are gifts to you for all of your sacrifice and hard work. I do think, however, that if your financial success and material wealth makes you walk through life feeling entitled, then we have a problem. Anyone who has realized success of that nature should enjoy their blessings and be humble. It is not, however, the only meter of success.
Some will argue that having less is more. That keeping life simple enables the individual to just savor the little things that we can either take for granted or even overlook. At the end of our lives what do we take with us? Our money and material things, or the experiences and love that we’ve had in our lives, both as we have received it and given it? Profound, and I think that when we are having those fulfilling experiences, we feel a sense of clear purpose. It’s the shit, and the residual energy and spirit I believe that we take with us when we leave this life.
So find the happiness in the experiences that fill you with love and purpose. Now I say enjoy the material things that enable you to experience fun, joy, and comfort in your life, and feel entitled to them. Just don’t let that entitlement get distorted and make you forget where you came from, and the things that really resonate joy for you on a spiritual level. Don’t let that kind of material success make you feel better than people who may not have as much money and material wealth. We all know the saying, it’s better to give then to receive. You know, those experiences that make us feel good and give us goosebumps. They give us a rush of good energy which can inspire all sorts of great things!